Life often seems to be a never-ending contest for control. So it makes sense that most people want to feel in control of what they think & do with their lives.
Unfortunately, many people continue to labor under a huge misconception: “Control comes first, then self-discipline will follow.”
Nothing could be further from the truth. And if you think about it for just a moment, you’ll see why: without self-discipline, where exactly is control supposed to come from? Money? Status? Physical power? Nope – none of them are consistent. Someone or something reliable must direct these resources in the first place: your will.
Our reality dictates that each of has the right to direct our resources. A burden or a gift? Depends on your perspective! In any case we are all personally responsible for our thoughts, actions, and their outcomes. So the bottom line is this: if you desire control over your Life and your circumstances, discipline yourself first, then enjoy the control that follows.
All power struggles are about locus of control. Never forget that your control is strongest when your position is dead-center of your own “sphere of influence”, whatever it may look like.
So if you ever find yourself caught in the middle of a power struggle, pay close attention to whose sphere of influence you happen to currently be standing in the center of. And if it’s not your own, review your strategy one more time before you consider flexing any muscles or exerting any effort.
There will be times when this shift in perspective is all that you require to shift the balance of power in your favour. Think about it. Use it.
Control is about a lot more than simply being able to make a choice. Control is about being able to choose the currency with which you will pay for that choice.
What’s the difference?
Intention is a sign that points you in the right direction, but Drive is the engine that will get you where you want to be.
Doing something that you don’t particularly care about now so that you can experience something you do care very much about in the future.
Confidence is the habit of being pleased with doing and recognizing your absolute best – and knowing why.