To be “professional” is to maintain a detachment from your own emotional biases, not a detachment from your sincerity.
All power struggles are about locus of control. Never forget that your control is strongest when your position is dead-center of your own “sphere of influence”, whatever it may look like.
So if you ever find yourself caught in the middle of a power struggle, pay close attention to whose sphere of influence you happen to currently be standing in the center of. And if it’s not your own, review your strategy one more time before you consider flexing any muscles or exerting any effort.
There will be times when this shift in perspective is all that you require to shift the balance of power in your favour. Think about it. Use it.
Generally speaking, people tend to label themselves (and others) as “positive” or “negative”. But this is not always as useful as you might think.
So instead, try asking yourself: “Do I tend to think constructively or destructively?” Doing this will move you forward!
What’s the difference?
Guiding is helping people get where they want to go. Managing is helping people get where you need them to be.