the truth about “shame”

Feeling shame is just the self-indulgence of wallowing in “I should have ___!”. 

And whenever you beat yourself up over “I should have ___!”, it is simply because you are not responsibly evaluating the validity of your expectations

Look, if you are so sure that “I should have made the right choice!” is a valid expectation, then answer the following question honestly: “Was I properly equipped to make the “right” choice back then – in terms of my mental acuity, emotional capacity & maturity, intellectual capability, experience and wisdom?” 

And if you come up with the inevitable answer that “Actually, I may have been a little short on experience & wisdom back then…”, then just LET THE SHAME DISSOLVE AWAY!

PS. Learning can be a very powerful way to neutralize shame and help restore your emotional pH balance.

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