As individuals, we all have the lifelong responsibility to unrelentingly cultivate our own strength.
But the nature of things is such that we need personal power to live as we choose and get the outcomes we want.
So just cultivating strength is not enough. We also need to channel that strength through confidence & focus to develop the power – the ability to act – to live successfully.
Think about it. And channel away!
Let’s say you set a goal, made a plan & followed it. But the outcome you expected and worked towards just did not materialize.
So did you fail? Well it depends on how you choose to frame your outcome. You see, you have the freedom to frame the outcome as either a SETBACK or as a FAILURE.
What’s the difference?
If you choose to label your efforts as culminating in FAILURE, then you’re telling yourself that you accept this unsuccessful outcome as final. And so in effect, you have admitted defeat and have chosen to cease your efforts – chosen to quit.
On the other hand, if you choose to label your present outcome as a SETBACK, then it indicates that you are still committed to getting the positive outcome you expected. Being determined to make the effort, you’ll analyze your present outcome, do what is necessary to reformulate your perspective, strategy, action plans, and carry on until you achieve the outcome you want.
My point: think of FAILURE simply as a label we often choose to rationalize our having given up. Ultimately then, FAILURE is really just an emotional perspective rather than an objective reality, regardless of how widely we may at times miss the mark.
Think on this next time your efforts deliver an outcome that falls short of your intentions.
Oh yeah, and never quit.
As we all get older, the various pressures we are subjected to as members of society, as well as those arising within our own minds, steadily accumulate and increase.
And perhaps the most unfortunate side-effect of this phenomenon is the growing number of good people that succumb to those pressures. Because the upshot is that they inevitably trade their fortitude for endurance, and in doing so sacrifice their individuality.
Power: The ability to do something; you can either have it or not.
- Power is relative to Others; the nature of power is akin to that of confidence – they are both dependent upon & relative to context.
- Power can deliver external advantages.
- To enhance your Power, cultivate your decisiveness.
Strength: The capacity to do something; you can either have a little or a lot.
- Strength is relative to You; the nature of strength is that it is not defined by or relative to context.
- Strength can deliver internal advantages.
- To enhance your Strength, cultivate your composure.
The Bottom Line:
You need power to achieve freedom, but you need strength to be able to enjoy it.
FACT: You don’t deserve better unless you demand better.
So if you really want “better”, a good place to start is developing your character such that you never invite destructive people to run roughshod over you.
This is one of the personal responsibilities of an individual.
Give it some thought.
All watch aficionados are familiar with this piece of advice for anyone looking to buy a watch: “Price, Quality, Style – pick two.”
What this amounts to is that if you want a favourably priced and high quality watch, you will likely have to compromise on style.
If you want a favourably priced and stylish watch, you will likely have to compromise on quality.
And if you insist on having both high quality & style, you must be prepared to pay the price.
I find that Life tends to run along more or less the same lines…
Just a few thoughts on a few differences I’ve noticed between goals (GS) and wishful thinking (WT).
- GS: INTEND to achieve
- WT: HOPE to achieve
- GS: Belief that you CAN
- WT: NO belief that you CAN
- GS: Uncertainty re HOW => Possibility
- WT: Uncertainty re HOW => Impossibility
- GS: Emotional ATTACHMENT
- WT: Emotional DETACHMENT
- GS: INVESTMENT of daily effort
- WT: SQUANDERING of daily effort
- GS: RISK = MISSED accomplishment => DISAPPOINTMENT
- WT: RISK = NO accomplishment => FAILURE
Hope this can offer some clarity if the lines between the two have been a bit blurry.