“I really want Freedom.”
Terrific! Now take a moment and consider: Do I want freedom FROM ____ or freedom TO ____?
making the impossible impossible
Think of a few potential personal achievements that feel really inspiring to you, and list them on a piece of paper.
Try imagining that they are POSSIBLE.
Now, you may find that you are having trouble doing this because part of your mind is screaming: “But that’s not realistic!”. Okay, so then try imagining that they are IMPOSSIBLE. Can you do it?
If imagining that they are IMPOSSIBLE is not possible, then imagining that they are POSSIBLE must be possible! So get to it and enjoy!
destiny is a matter of choice
Wouldn’t it be nice if your Destiny was as simple as writing the details of the life you want on a blank sheet of paper ? Alas, it ain’t so.
Turns out that it’s more like we and Fate both scribble on a sheet of paper which then gets torn into a million pieces.
So your first responsibility is to gather up and re-assemble all the pieces and paste them into one sheet again. This may take some time. The good news is you’re then free to edit any of the scribblings on that sheet that you find disagreeable. You can also deliberately draft and outline any paths you want to walk. Sure it’s complicated and at times a little tricky, but well worth the effort, don’t ya think?
“Destiny is not a matter of chance, but a matter of choice. It is not a thing to be waited for, but a thing to be achieved.”
if you want to assess your character….
Rather than “How are you responding to adversity?”, perhaps a more useful measure of your character is “What are you doing with your freedom?”
a solid negotiation tip
Looking to achieve a more effective compromise? Try shifting your focus from “how much” to “what”.
how to leverage power struggles
All power struggles are all about locus of control.
Never forget that yours is strongest when your position is dead-center of your own “sphere of influence”, such as it is.
So when you find yourself caught in the middle of a power struggle, note carefully in the center of whose sphere you happen to currently be standing. And if it is not your own, review your strategy one more time before you consider flexing any muscles or exerting any effort.
There will be times when this shift in perspective is all that you require to shift the balance of power in your favour. Think about it.