{"id":2867,"date":"2014-11-09T00:25:19","date_gmt":"2014-11-09T00:25:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/?p=2867"},"modified":"2018-08-09T00:47:24","modified_gmt":"2018-08-09T00:47:24","slug":"be-realistic","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/2014\/11\/09\/be-realistic\/","title":{"rendered":"why &#8220;be realistic&#8221; may not be the best advice"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>A very common piece of advice that we all get from time to time is \u201cbe realistic\u201d.<\/p>\n<p>Usually we hear this in response to our explaining how or why we intend to embark on the realization of a dream, ambition or desire that <em>appears<\/em> to be out of reach at present. It may even involve taking a risk or two. Point is, \u201cbe realistic\u201d is a common response to someone &#8211; maybe you &#8211; taking the risk to reach far ahead of who, what or where they are.<\/p>\n<p>But there is a big problem with \u201cbe realistic\u201d &#8211; it squelches positive momentum, and often fatally. So assuming positive intentions, a far better alternative to offer is \u201c<strong>operate in reality<\/strong>\u201d, because \u201cbe realistic\u201d is <em>nowhere <\/em>near the same thing as \u201coperate in reality\u201d. To wit:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u201c<strong><em>Be Realistic<\/em><\/strong>\u201d means \u201caccept whatever constraints you have been led to believe that you must accept\u201d.<\/li>\n<li>\u201c<strong><em>Operate In Reality<\/em><\/strong>\u201d means just what it says, as well as \u201cneither pretend nor waste time relying on wishful thinking\u201d.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>See the difference?<\/p>\n<p>So if you ever find yourself feeling compelled to either give or receive this type of advice, do yourself (and them) a big favour: purge the phrase \u201cbe realistic\u201d from your mind &amp; vocabulary, and replace it with \u201coperate in reality\u201d. Remember: As long as you have at least one foot on the ground, it\u2019s safe to soar!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>A very common piece of advice that we all get from time to time is \u201cbe realistic\u201d. Usually we hear this in response to our&hellip;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"advanced_seo_description":"","jetpack_seo_html_title":"","jetpack_seo_noindex":false,"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[9],"tags":[33,39],"class_list":["post-2867","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-perspectives","tag-mindful-thinking","tag-personal-power"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2867","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=2867"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2867\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3258,"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2867\/revisions\/3258"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=2867"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=2867"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.pushthelimit.com\/wp\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=2867"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}