Passive-aggressiveness is a prison; one created and maintained solely by you yourself.
And like a prison, perhaps finding yourself in it from time to time may be an unavoidable evil.
But when being in the prison of passive-aggressiveness proves inescapable, such use ought to be as a temporary abode – never a dwelling place.
PS. Besides being the refuge of cowards, passive-aggressiveness is also the very antithesis of Integrity. Think about it.
Guilt is far more toxic & dangerous than just a feeling, it is an internal environment – sustained by you yourself!
Here is how it works: The more you indulge in “feeling guilty” over the years, the more familiar you become with a guilt environment, and so the more readily & completely you come to accept that same environment as “natural”.
But what if you are not always consciously aware of choosing to feel particularly guilty? Doesn’t matter – as long as you engage guilt, its awesome power to shape your decisions will continually increase in the background, out of sight, regardless of actual circumstances.
The cost of all of this? Guilt in any form erodes self-confidence. So as you become inevitably doubtful of all the positive potential within yourself, the net price you pay is ultimately the ruination of your independent self.
So ask yourself – is the habit of guilt really worth tolerating?
Looking to achieve “critical mass” on a positive personal transformation? Give this a try.
Step 1: Whenever you feel a burst of positive motivational energy, I recommend that you immediately apply it to mapping out a Plan & Schedule, and keep at it until this tool is ready to use.
Step 2: Then every day just follow that plan ruthlessly i.e. completely disregarding your present motivation, energy levels, etc. This last bit is critical.
Following these 2 simple steps is the easiest and most reliable way to move yourself forward – at least for your first few months of positive transformation.
Remember: If you insist on relying on daily doses of motivation to keep you moving forward and acting appropriately during that time, you will most likely find yourself disappointed. Why? Because chances are pretty good that your default mental patterns are far too powerful to efficiently overcome on the basis of daily effort.
The best news is that once you have attained “critical mass” and installed this new path forward into your life, you will be free to rely on anything you wish to keep yourself moving forward.
The SOCIAL man, displaying a characteristically immature, irrational, and undignified manner, has sadly become the exemplar of the day.
While today he appears to be lamentably ubiquitous and inexplicably lauded, his existence is nothing new; his ilk have been around since the beginning of mankind, albeit in a different guise. In our midst well before SOCIAL even existed, he used to simply be referred to as a “teenager”.
What is the difference between a brave man and a coward?
A coward may occasionally rise above his weakness, yet a coward he remains. A brave man is brave until death takes him. True, his courage might dull from time to time under ill-usage or heavy blows, yet it is still courage.
Ultimately, it is a matter of spirit.
Unless we make a sustained & concerted effort to expect only what we want, by default we remain consigned to anticipating a repetition of our personal history – and getting more of The Same.
Think about it; it matters.
