Category: Perspectives

Perspectives

earn your own great expectations

by Paul Joo

As a survival instinct, we can have a tendency to treat all the unpleasant cause & effect patterns we’ve ever experienced as having coalesced into a single ever-present “force or power”.

And because we have a powerful emotional  “muscle memory” of those patterns, we can often hold this imaginary force or power as responsible for every single thing that has worked against us, seems to be working against us today, and may be expected to work against our well-being in the future as well

I think this is one reason why our Habitual Fears are able to command our attention so easily; we see them as harbingers of that power or force that we’re expecting to inevitably work against us!

One solution springs to mind that is quite simple, if perhaps not all that easy:

Rather than clinging to old emotions rooted in bad memories, we might all be better off basing our expectations on the reality of our present circumstances, capabilities, and possibilities.

Perspectives

how to escape negativity

by Paul Joo

Escaping negativity in all its forms – many of which reside within your own mind – can be as simple as following this advice: instead of trying to avoid it, actively ignore it.

Here’s how it works. When you try to avoid a thing, you’re already giving it your attention. So when you try to avoid something as incredibly potent as negativity, it will immediately & mercilessly pollute you with its toxins. Not good.

A better alternative is to actively ignore negativity. And the best way to do that is by focusing all your attention on positivity!

Okay, like many simple things this may prove a little harder than it sounds. Fair enough. But while it’s true that all things are difficult before they are easy, they actually do get easier, so fear not.

I assure you that if you can set your attentions on positives and keep them focused there, you will remain permanently out of the pernicious reach of negativity.

And that, friends, is a pretty great way to go through life, wouldn’t you say?

Perspectives

we suffer more from imagination than reality

by Paul Joo

Many people are so afraid of the potential consequences of imagined failure that they spend all their time, energy & effort in trying to avoid them.

The problem is that in doing so, they fail to avoid the consequences of real failures that are completely within their power to avoid today.

Please consider this well; to squander your life out of fear would be a terrible waste.

Perspectives

4 simple steps to resolution

by Paul Joo

1 – Identify – Identify precisely what the specific issue is that you need to address here & now.

2 – Understand – Look at your present context & understand the real reason you need to fix this now.

3 – Learn – Critique your way through a few reasonable ways to get the job done given your present circumstances.

4 – Apply – Choose your best option and boldly implement your strategy with confidence!

Think.    Commit.   Succeed.

Perspectives

never compromise on compromise

by Paul Joo

There may be times when circumstances dictate that you absolutely must compromise.

Whenever this happens, make the best of it by engineering a scenario where what needs to be sacrificed is simply some perceived comfort, traded off for the benefit of strategically adapting to your current context.

Just have a care that you never permit compromise to be a matter of relinquishing or sacrificing your principles. Ever.

Consider this deeply: Treat intelligently managing compromise as investing in your future, not acquiescing to your present.

 

Perspectives

how to attain true freedom

by Paul Joo

The Scenario: We all want “freedom”. Or think we do. But were you aware that achieving it is entirely dependent upon whether you are pushing or pulling? Read on…..

 

FREEDOM FROM – this desire is rooted in the types of emotions associated with: ”Don’t miss!”

Insight: As you can surmise, the DNA of FREEDOM FROM is really avoidance; you want to feel free of some negative force or set of conditions. The emotional factors in play here are primarily doubt and fear, because these are the things you are pushing away from in your quest to obtain freedom.

 

FREEDOM TO – this desire is rooted in the types of emotions associated with: ”Hit it out of the park!”

Insight:  The DNA of FREEDOM TO is the expansive spirit of reaching ahead; you are driven by confidence and determined self-reliance to achieve. The emotional factor in play here is primarily a powerful belief in yourself as the vehicle through which you will obtain your freedom.

 

The Takeaway:  FREEDOM FROM leads only to feelings of futility, because the harder you try to push away from the doubts & fears to which you are clinging, the tighter your grip on them – and theirs on you!

On the contrary, FREEDOM TO pulls you ever forward, and so it alone can lead to cultivating an independent spirit, the only true freedom we can experience.

As always, the choice is yours – make every effort to pick one you’ll be happy living with.

 

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