Our memories – particularly powerfully negative ones – often seem to have a life of their own. And after a fashion, they do. But consider that whatever lives can also die.
Our attention is Life Support for our memories; without our constant attention to nourish our memories, they simply die, just like any other organic substance.
So if you ever feel “plagued” or “haunted” by a particularly unpleasant memory, rather than trying to attack it, simply deny it your attention. It will slowly but surely attenuate, then starve, and finally wither away.
Naturally, this is easy to say and tough to do, but it works! 🙂