Author: Paul Joo

Paul Joo, Decision Architect and devotee of Human Potential & Performance. My passion is identifying & unleashing personal potential.
Perspectives

the advantage of rational thought over feeling

by Paul Joo

Success. No matter how we define it, we all want it.

And yet we are so often afraid to stand up and go after it without some sort of “proof” that our risk, our efforts, our vulnerability during the process of reaching will not meet with failure.

So, does this “proof” actually exist? Sure! But the kicker is that you must furnish it for yourself!

And here’s one way to do it: Rather than trying to “take control of your emotions” (…uhm, how’s that worked out for ya so far?…), instead just follow these 3 simple steps, and Act On Rational Thoughts Only:

Step 1: Complete a Thought. Which looks like this: Cause + Effect + Outcome.

Step 2: Practice Completing a Thought until you can do it Quickly, Consistently, and Thoroughly.

Step 3: Apply to ALL Thoughts.

I guarantee that if you can discipline yourself to Act On Rational Thoughts rather than acting on your emotional ones (i.e. feelings), you will (a) SEE yourself achieving whatever you set out to achieve, and (b) find your self-confidence soaring to new heights. And then what more “proof” will you need? 🙂

Give it a try – the only thing you risk losing is self-doubt.

 

Perspectives

do you worry about failure?

by Paul Joo

While losing doesn’t always mean that you’ve failed,

Failure always means that you lost.

While winning doesn’t always mean that you’ve succeeded,

Success always means that you won.

 

Perspectives

some old school perspective from Mr. Bond

by Paul Joo

“Bond put the thought of his dead youth out of his mind. Never job backwards. What-might-have-been was a waste of time. Follow your fate, and be satisfied with it, and be glad not to be a second-hand motor salesman, or a yellow-press journalist, pickled in gin and nicotine – or dead.”   – From Russia With Love, Ian Fleming

Perspectives

4 simple steps to achieving a goal

by Paul Joo

Looking to transform a Goal you have into an actual Achievement?

I’ve found it useful to include these steps in the process:

1. Reconfirm your Emotional Driver – What key idea/decision is driving me to now make this Goal a reality?

2. Identify your Next Action  – What to DO next that will ratchet me up towards Achievement?

3. Reconfirm your Goal’s Context – What is my rationale for taking THIS Particular Action at THIS Particular Time? i.e. What material contribution will it make to the achievement of my Goal?

4. Complete your Next Action – Don’t just follow up, follow through!

Rinse. Lather. Repeat. 🙂

 

Perspectives

the popular habit that kills integrity

by Paul Joo

Passive-aggressiveness is a prison; one created and maintained solely by you yourself.

And like a prison, perhaps finding yourself in it from time to time may be an unavoidable evil.

But when being in the prison of passive-aggressiveness proves inescapable, such use ought to be as a temporary abode – never a dwelling place.

PS. Besides being the refuge of cowards, passive-aggressiveness is also the very antithesis of Integrity. Think about it.

Perspectives

what’s the true cost of guilt?

by Paul Joo

Guilt is far more toxic & dangerous than just a feeling, it is an internal environment – sustained by you yourself!

Here is how it works: The more you indulge in “feeling guilty” over the years, the more familiar you become with a guilt environment, and so the more readily & completely you come to accept that same environment as “natural”.

But what if you are not always consciously aware of choosing to feel particularly guilty? Doesn’t matter – as long as you engage guilt, its awesome power to shape your decisions will continually increase in the background, out of sight, regardless of actual circumstances.

The cost of all of this? Guilt in any form erodes self-confidence. So as you become inevitably doubtful of all the positive potential within yourself, the net price you pay is ultimately the ruination of your independent self.

So ask yourself – is the habit of guilt really worth tolerating?

 

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