“Live & learn” is the advice commonly offered us after we’ve made some sort of mistake, the nature of which required us to pay a rather hefty price. The implication is that having paid that price is what gives us the opportunity to “learn a valuable lesson”.
For myself, though, I think it a far better, wiser, and more comfortable proposition to live according to the mandate: Learn & Live!
Naturally it takes a little more upfront effort, but why not give it a try and see how it works out for you.