Tag: Self-Awareness

Looking to transform a Goal you have into an actual Achievement?

I’ve found it useful to include these steps in the process:

1. Reconfirm your Emotional Driver – What key idea/decision is driving me to now make this Goal a reality?

2. Identify your Next Action  – What to DO next that will ratchet me up towards Achievement?

3. Reconfirm your Goal’s Context – What is my rationale for taking THIS Particular Action at THIS Particular Time? i.e. What material contribution will it make to the achievement of my Goal?

4. Complete your Next Action – Don’t just follow up, follow through!

Rinse. Lather. Repeat. 🙂

 

Passive-aggressiveness is a prison; one created and maintained solely by you yourself.

And like a prison, perhaps finding yourself in it from time to time may be an unavoidable evil.

But when being in the prison of passive-aggressiveness proves inescapable, such use ought to be as a temporary abode – never a dwelling place.

PS. Besides being the refuge of cowards, passive-aggressiveness is also the very antithesis of Integrity. Think about it.

Guilt is far more toxic & dangerous than just a feeling, it is an internal environment – sustained by you yourself!

Here is how it works: The more you indulge in “feeling guilty” over the years, the more familiar you become with a guilt environment, and so the more readily & completely you come to accept that same environment as “natural”.

But what if you are not always consciously aware of choosing to feel particularly guilty? Doesn’t matter – as long as you engage guilt, its awesome power to shape your decisions will continually increase in the background, out of sight, regardless of actual circumstances.

The cost of all of this? Guilt in any form erodes self-confidence. So as you become inevitably doubtful of all the positive potential within yourself, the net price you pay is ultimately the ruination of your independent self.

So ask yourself – is the habit of guilt really worth tolerating?

 

In a world that seems determined to draw our attention to the negatives, it can be tough to get & stay positively motivated, let alone inspired.

So here is an easy way to keep motivation and inspiration in play every day:

Try to think in terms of motivation as “I really want to DO ____”, and think in terms of inspiration as “I really want to BECOME ____”.

Now, assuming that you believe that what you think & do every day adds up to Your Life, the path is clear: you first need to identify what truly inspires you, and then find paths to keep you motivated to live up to your inspiration. Simple! 🙂

For example, I happen to be inspired by a specific blend of qualities evinced by Sherlock Holmes, Aristotle, James Bond, the Dalai Lama, and Miyamoto Musashi. So I’m motivated to do certain things in certain ways that will bring me closer to living those qualities myself. But that’s just me.

If you aren’t yet sure how or where to look for your own inspiration, you could do worse than to start by considering the following:

“To love justice, to long for the right, to love mercy, to forget wrongs and remember benefits, to love the truth, to be sincere, to love liberty, to cultivate the mind, to be familiar with the mighty thoughts that genius has expressed, the noble deeds of all the world, to cultivate courage and cheerfulness.”

Remember, it doesn’t really matter what inspires you, as long as you find something that does. And it may change over time – that’s fine too. As long as it speaks to you now, you can rely on it to keep you motivated to get going on what to do today, to live as and become whom you want to be. Because that, friends, is living well!