Spend too long trying to repair the weak spots in an imperfect vessel.
Or hammer that vessel with the flail of discipline to see if it is strong enough to withstand the blows required to mend its flaws.
Which would be your choice?
a practical way to manage memories
Our memories – particularly powerfully negative ones – often seem to have a life of their own. And after a fashion, they do. But consider that whatever lives can also die.
Our attention is Life Support for our memories; without our constant attention to nourish our memories, they simply die, just like any other organic substance.
So if you ever feel “plagued” or “haunted” by a particularly unpleasant memory, rather than trying to attack it, simply deny it your attention. It will slowly but surely attenuate, then starve, and finally wither away.
Naturally, this is easy to say and tough to do, but it works! 🙂
one way to get unstuck
Most of us would agree that change is a good thing – positive change, that is. And yet, for all that we complain of feeling “stuck”, what’s keeping us from the change we want?
One potential reason: We refuse to accept our immediate reality. Now I’m not speaking here of “accepting” it as good or bad, right or wrong, etc. I’m talking about acceptance as a non-judgmental realization of what actually is; not what we think we’re thinking, but what we are actually doing.
The value of honest acceptance is extreme: If you even moderately defy the facts of your present reality – your actual “doing” patterns – then you are effectively holding yourself hostage to those patterns, and you will remain powerless to change your conditions.
On the other hand, if you can find the courage, strength, or whatever else you need to accept your present reality as-is, then it immediately becomes entirely within your power to make changes to it or preserve it – as you wish. The choice is within your capabilities right now.
why you “didn’t think of that”
Ever receive some useful advice that seems so self-evident that you find yourself saying “Hey, why didn’t I think of that!”?
Yeah. Well, the reason you didn’t think of it is most likely because you were paying far more attention to what you were feeling.
A little self-discipline goes a long way…
just say no to excuses
You don’t ever need them. Period.
So if you don’t want’em, don’t use’em.
This is one of your fundamental human rights.
be controlled rather than sorry
After all, apologies are not the currency of successful living.
3 quarterly self-check questions
Am I living passively or actively?
Am I allowing my Life to continue to be governed by what I’ve absorbed?
Or am I taking my Life in the direction I want by using what I know to be true?