“Instead of holding me accountable for what I did wrong, reward me for anything I happened to do right!”
Hmmm…….
the difference between victory & defeat
“Just a little more.”
How easy to say, but how difficult to achieve.
For “just a little more” is what distinguishes the victorious from the vanquished.
– Miyamoto Musashi
the advantage of rational thought over feeling
Success. No matter how we define it, we all want it.
And yet we are so often afraid to stand up and go after it without some sort of “proof” that our risk, our efforts, our vulnerability during the process of reaching will not meet with failure.
So, does this “proof” actually exist? Sure! But the kicker is that you must furnish it for yourself!
And here’s one way to do it: Rather than trying to “take control of your emotions” (…uhm, how’s that worked out for ya so far?…), instead just follow these 3 simple steps, and Act On Rational Thoughts Only:
Step 1: Complete a Thought. Which looks like this: Cause + Effect + Outcome.
Step 2: Practice Completing a Thought until you can do it Quickly, Consistently, and Thoroughly.
Step 3: Apply to ALL Thoughts.
I guarantee that if you can discipline yourself to Act On Rational Thoughts rather than acting on your emotional ones (i.e. feelings), you will (a) SEE yourself achieving whatever you set out to achieve, and (b) find your self-confidence soaring to new heights. And then what more “proof” will you need? 🙂
Give it a try – the only thing you risk losing is self-doubt.
r-e-s-p-e-c-t…it’s earned
If you demand respect, then see to it that you live in such a manner as to command it.
do you worry about failure?
While losing doesn’t always mean that you’ve failed,
Failure always means that you lost.
While winning doesn’t always mean that you’ve succeeded,
Success always means that you won.
some old school perspective from Mr. Bond
“Bond put the thought of his dead youth out of his mind. Never job backwards. What-might-have-been was a waste of time. Follow your fate, and be satisfied with it, and be glad not to be a second-hand motor salesman, or a yellow-press journalist, pickled in gin and nicotine – or dead.” – From Russia With Love, Ian Fleming
4 simple steps to achieving a goal
Looking to transform a Goal you have into an actual Achievement?
I’ve found it useful to include these steps in the process:
1. Reconfirm your Emotional Driver – What key idea/decision is driving me to now make this Goal a reality?
2. Identify your Next Action – What to DO next that will ratchet me up towards Achievement?
3. Reconfirm your Goal’s Context – What is my rationale for taking THIS Particular Action at THIS Particular Time? i.e. What material contribution will it make to the achievement of my Goal?
4. Complete your Next Action – Don’t just follow up, follow through!
Rinse. Lather. Repeat. 🙂