Author: Paul Joo

Paul Joo, Decision Architect and devotee of Human Potential & Performance. My passion is identifying & unleashing personal potential.
Perspectives

don’t let “thinking” stress you out

by Paul Joo

A great many people get stressed out by “thinking!”.

And one of the major reasons is that they focus on trying to find THE answer, rather than just creating and considering viable options first. Not optimal.

So here’s my take on a solution – just keep the following in mind:

It’s not always about finding THE answer; sometimes there just isn’t a single definitive answer, or even any reliable place to look for one if there was.

Very often it’s simply about creating AN answer, or even a few options that might work.

Relatively simple, yes? To recap: It is more often about creating an answer than finding one, and it is most often about AN answer rather than THE answer.

So next time you need or want to “think” about something important, don’t put so much pressure on yourself to be “right”. Instead, just follow this advice and you’ll most likely end up doing what works. 🙂

Perspectives

how to be a real Man

by Paul Joo

A man will often be inaccurately judged by OTHERS according to what he DOES.

A man will always be accurately judged by THE UNIVERSE according to what he IS.

A man is best judged by HIMSELF according to what he IS & DOES.

The real Man is responsible for what he IS ; this then directs all that he DOES.

 

Thought Bytes

increase your adaptability to succeed

by Paul Joo

In my opinion, one of the greatest hurdles to success for most people is adaptability.

Success often depends on your ability to adapt to new ideas, strategies & information – as though you’ve been in possession of them all your life.

Which of course requires a combination of confidence, intelligence, and maturity of character.

Which is why adaptability is often one of the greatest hurdles to success for most people.

 

Perspectives

overcome these obstacles to personal transformation

by Paul Joo

Most people either fail to address or simply cannot recognize, understand or believe HOW they have become what they’ve become.

Consequently, they refuse to believe WHAT they have become; they simply continue on defying their reality.

And so they have neither the basis nor sufficient motivation to take the steps required to successfully transform themselves into the person they really want to become.

So…. look at HOW you’ve become what you are – and WHAT it actually is – with courage and without regret. And just get cracking.

Perspectives

a modern-day classic

by Paul Joo

“PRESENTLY, I AM TRYING TO MAKE FRIENDS OUTSIDE OF FACEBOOK WHILE APPLYING THE SAME PRINCIPLES.

THEREFORE EVERY DAY, I GO DOWN ON THE STREET AND TELL A PASSERBY WHAT I HAVE EATEN, HOW I FEEL ,WHAT I HAVE DONE THE NIGHT BEFORE, AND WHAT I WILL DO TOMORROW.   I GIVE THEM PICTURES OF MY WIFE, MY DAUGHTER, MY DOG AND ME GARDENING AND SPENDING TIME IN MY POOL.

I ALSO LISTEN TO THEIR CONVERSATIONS AND I TELL THEM I LOVE THEM.

AND IT WORKS : I ALREADY HAVE 3 PERSONS FOLLOWING ME : 2 POLICE OFFICERS AND A PSYCHIATRIST.”

Absolutely brilliant! I’ve no idea who came up with this originally, but whoever it is deserves some sort of award…or at the very least a free pint at their local brewpub 🙂 .

Perspectives

how to live better longer

by Paul Joo

“It is not that we have a short space of time, but that we waste much of it.

Life is long enough, and it has been given in sufficiently generous measure to allow the accomplishment of the very greatest things if the whole of it is well invested.

But when it is squandered in carelessness, when it is devoted to no good end, forced at last by the ultimate necessity we perceive that it has passed away before we were aware that it was passing.

So it is – the life we receive is not short, but we make it so, nor do we have any lack of it, but are wasteful of it.”  – Seneca

Of course we can deliberately, purposefully and persistently choose to live otherwise… but only if we believe it is worth the effort. 🙂

Perspectives

the key to learning from your mistakes

by Paul Joo

When you make a serious mistake – and we all do from time to time – how do you (a) transform it from disappointment into a learning experience, and (b) resolve to not repeat that same mistake again?

The key is to discipline yourself to remain brutally objective, and most importantly avoid the allure of self-pity in any of its comfortable forms.

Consider: If you let self-pity seep in while you are reflecting on your mistake, then your reflections rapidly & inevitably spin in the direction of self-punishment, and you end up trapped in a morass of self-pity & regret. Thus occupied, you are not likely to recognize facts and understand why you made the mistake in the first place. The outcome? You are most likely doomed to repeat that mistake in the future.

If, however, you doggedly refuse to permit self-pity to gain any purchase during your reflections, then once you’ve thoroughly understood why you originally made the mistake, you are in a position of power to resolve to never make it again.

Remember: By just refusing to allow self-pity to pollute your thinking, your personal power increases tenfold.

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