Tag: Self-Awareness

People often complain that they have “no control”.

But this doesn’t always accurately reflect what’s really going on.

In fact, quite often the reality is that people do indeed have at least some measure of control, but they are simply not choosing to exercise it.

 

Many people are actually smarter than they think. Unfortunately, they never find out because they refuse to think.

Some people, once they’ve started exercising more, find it easier to improve their eating habits.

Others, once they’ve started eating better, find it easier to improve their exercise habits.

I think you’ll find it surprisingly useful to figure out which type you are.

Hope belies confidence in a desired outcome.

And without that confidence, you’re not sincerely motivated to try.

And if you don’t really try, you don’t really expect your outcome.

To rely on hope makes you timid, uncertain and passive.

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Don’t hope – just believe in yourself.

I respect individuals who take personal responsibility for their own lives – who take full responsibility for everything they Think & Feel, as well as all the Effects & Outcomes of what they themselves Think & Feel.

People who choose to live this way cultivate self-respect rather than self-righteousness, and are a credit to humanity.

P.S. What are you cultivating?

When purposefully controlled & directed, anger can be a very effective tool useful in overcoming your fear to action.

But two caveats: (1) Be very careful to never allow your anger to turn inward, where it can easily mutate into self-pity or self-recrimination.*  (2) Use anger only to get you to action, letting it burn out before it can impact or direct what action you will take; don’t drive angry!  🙂

And of course, as with any tool, it should never be more powerful than the hand that wields it.

 

   * When you just get angry in an uncontrolled & undirected way, what does your anger end up settling into?  Most often a default resting place of self-punishment or self-recrimination or guilt.

But by purposefully controlling & directing your anger against a problem rather than a person, you overcome this inertia of rest -> You momentarily peel away from self-punishment or self-recrimination or guilt, which gives you a fantastic opportunity for positive transformation!

Use this positive momentum to move away from your default, and keep moving all the way to Critical Thinking. Because Critical Thinking is the only thing that will deliver a completely different outcome than what you’re used to.

Practice using controlled & directed anger as a catalyst to target the problem and think your way through an issue, rather than simply defaulting to negative feelings turned inward against yourself. When you do this, you not only tap into the extraordinary power of Thinking, but you also stop reinforcing any self-destructive patterns of self-pity, self-recrimination and guilt.